Dear Auntie Linda, My husband was raised in a miserable situation and has struggled to pull himself up by his bootstraps, with my help, I might add.  The problem lies with the fact the periodically, he feels the need to drag people in from his earlier life as a DIY project.  Before you start to praise him, please be aware, he does this at the expense of his own family, possibly endangering them in the process. It maddens me to see him spend money on him when his children need shoes.  Should he meet a pathetic character from years ago on the street,  it often occurs to him he can invest in this person and salvage them.  I am all for helping people, but not for bringing people from the streets into my home, with my small children.  He acts like he gets on a high when he is with these people, not like with drugs, but demonstrating he has it made and is going to show them the way.  I believe he gets off on looking like a big shot to people he sees as losers.  He is not all compassion, though.  He is contemptuous and quick to laugh at their flaws when they are not around.  What is his problem.  Charity begins at home.

Dear Charity,  I won’t disabuse your assessment of the situation.  Sounds like going slumming builds up his ego and makes him feel like a big shot.  What a Sweetheart.  I wouldn’t expect him to change.  You’ll just have to decide if you feel like living with this.  Auntie Linda

Dear Auntie Linda,  My sister-in-law is a nurse and did the most disgusting thing when she was washing dishes.  Her kid came by with a snotty nose.  She wiped the kid’s nose with a dishrag and just kept right on washing dishes.  Disgusted.

Dear Disgusted.  Don’t know that I’d be eating there again.  That’s disgusting.  When she comes to your house, I believe I’d use disposable and tell her she didn’t need to bring anything.  Auntie Linda