
I wish I had had the opportunity to reach out to Anna Duggar and young women like her before they are sadly misguided by their parents, churches and future in-laws into oppressive, early marriages rather than being encouraged to develop as fully functioning members of society. Anna’s parents additionally betrayed her by sanctioning her marriage to a man they knew had already molested his sisters and others. They should have told her to run, not walk! It is an outrage to deprive women of education and opportunities in the name of Godliness. Women who are already in this situation will surely need help and support to make a life outside their church and family. Though Josh Duggar has admitted to being addicted to pornography and having committing adultery, and well as child molestation, Anna has to be facing tremendous from her parents, in-laws, church and friends to “stand by her man” where her role is to assume a portion the guilt of a straying spouse, supporting him in his weakness. If only she’d been more supportive, listened better, been a better lover……… Likely, Anna feels she has no skills, despite her years of mothering ang managing a home, feeling she can’t support the children alone. I challenge Anna to look at the children she brought into the world; children she is responsible to protect at all costs. They deserve a life free of perversion and shame. Should Anna decide to bravely make the decision to protect her children, she can change things for children at risk for abuse everywhere.
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Pictorial Family History
Bill and Kathleen Swain’s wedding photo, June 29, 1945.
Roscoe and Lizzie Holdaway early marriage.
My maternal grandparents, Roscoe and Mary Elizabeth Holdaway with their children, then elderly.
Pictured above, paternal grandparents Eddie and Mettie Swain and their young family. Next several of their childre, then finally, Mettie, much later in life.
Dear Auntie Linda, August 25, 2015
Warning Sexual Abuse Trigger!!!
Dear Auntie Linda, I am in my seventies now and grew up in a large extended family. Not surprisingly, Mothers in our family whispered for their daughters to stay away from Uncle Joe, but nothing was ever done about it. Once Great-Uncle Henry invited me and my cousin to spend the weekend. I don’t Continue reading
The Top 10 Reasons Trick or Treating is Better than Sex
Top 10 Reasons Trick or Treating is Better Than Sex:
10) You are guaranteed to get a little something in the sack.
9) If you get tired, you can wait ten minutes and go at it again.
8) The uglier you look, the easier it is to get some.
7) You don’t have to compliment the person who gives you some.
6) It’s ok when the person you’re with fantasizes that you’re someone else, because you are.
5) Forty years from now you’ll still enjoy candy.
4)If you don’t like what you get, you can always go next door.
3) It doesn’t matter if the kids hear you moaning & groaning.
2) A lot less “morning after” guilt.
YOU CAN DO THE WHOLE NEIGHBORHOOD!
Fifty Dollars Worth of Camper
See this great old school bus. It is so much nicer than the one Daddy acquired for the unbelievable sum of fifty dollars. He purchased it from his brother-in-law, who’d gotten stuck with it as payment body work. Daddy was ahead of his time In acquiring this Tiny House. Mother was furious. Fifty dollars would have bought more than two week’s supply of groceries. Though he gave Mother no end of grief about her extravagant spending at the grocery store, he wasn’t short-sighted and saw the great potential in this bus-camper. It would be a wonderful shelter when he and his buddies went deer hunting, and oh yes, the family could use it for camping, too! Now our camper wasn’t nearly so nice as the one pictured above. It had been partially hand-painted bright silver and lacked a motor. The good news was, we could finish it up any color we liked and motors take up a lot of unnecessary space better used for storage. In that special storage area, items were stored in boxes on one deep shelf or in boxes on the floor beneath the shelf. While the rest of us were out fishing, swimming, or just running wild in general, Mother drug boxes out and dug through them for dishes, pots and pans, and food, all this with two babies in diapers. She complained about her back constantly. What a whiner!
See how comfortable and well-appointed the camper pictured above is. Ours was nothing like this. There was no refrigerator, lighting, water, bathroom, hard-wood floors, or Benjamin Franklin wood burning stove. There was, however, an ancient gas range Daddy hooked to a propane bottle. It had two functioning burners and a defunct oven. That was okay, since Mother insisted it had a propane leak and she was scared to use it longer than it took to heat a can of beans or cook eggs. She cooked with all the windows open and made Daddy cut the fuel off every time she got through. In fact, it did have a propane leak in the line, but that’s a story for another day.
Two full-size bunk beds filled the rear of the camper. Two sets of old army bunks were stacked along either side. Of course, we fought over the top bunks. The lower bunks served as seating. A lantern and flash lights served when light was needed.
It was perfect. I remember one wonderful camping trip when Daddy pulled it to a creek bank. We swam, fished, swatted mosquitoes, cooked outdoors, only going in to sleep, so exhausted we hardly moved till morning. Mother got up several times every night to spray to camper with bug killer and spray the covers and any exposed skin with mosquito repellent. We scratched bug bites and poison ivy for days after we got home.
That was our only family camping trip. Daddy used it a time or two for hunting, then gave it up as too much trouble. It had a couple of other incarnations as a home for a farm laborer who confirmed the stove fuel line leak before it descended so far down the social scale it ended life as a junk shed on Daddy’s farm.
To me, that camper was worth every cent!
Laughter the best medicine – Diet food fails, Forgetfulness and Finish what you start!
Dewin Nefol’s Joke
To leave you with a smile… an acquaintance was present at the local church the other Sunday morning on a bright and sunny day, and had opportunity to chat with the clergyman who remarked on the number of new faces in the congregation. Unsure of who was who, he asked my friend, ‘Was that Fanny Green sitting in the front pew?’ To which my friend cheekily replied, ‘No vicar, it was just the way light was shining through the stained glass window’ :D
Evening Chuckle
A friend of mine recently visited Vermont from his home in Boston.
He had rented a rustic cabin, far from any people, deep in the North Country, hoping to get “away from it all”.
Sure nuff, after a long Autumn and early and snowy Winter had set in, Christmas approached; my friend began to long for some human contact.
Then across the frozen lake in front of him, a lone snowmobile approached. Slowly and surely it came closer till at last it stopped in front of him, and a lone bearded rider dismounted.
“Howdy, you interested in goin’ to a party?”
Without waiting for a reply he went on:
“Goin’ to have some good music”
“That’s great”
“Going to be lots of good food;”
“All right, I could use some home cooking”
“ there is goin’ to be some drinkin’, and there is goin’ to be some swearin’ ”,.
“No problem.”
“and there is goin’ to be some fightin.”
“Oh that’s okay”, said my friend, “I can just stay in the background”.
“And there is goiin’ to be some sex”.
My friend laughed. “Say, when is this party going to be anyway?”
“Its tonight” said the stranger.
“Well, I’d like to come so I better get dressed”
“Naw, no need to” smiled the stranger, “it ‘ill just be the two of us.”
AAsk Auntie Linda, August 24, 2015
Dear Auntie Linda, My husband and I are just barely squeaking by. We have three children under four. I would love to be a stay-at-home mother, but it’s out of the question. We need every penny to put food on the table. My parents are retired and babysit for us, but I have to pay them fifty dollars a week, fifty dollars we desperately need. Since they are both home anyway, it looks like they could do it for free, knowing how we are struggling just to keep food on the table and pay the rent. I have had to pay them late a time or two and Mom asked me about the money. Doesn’t this seem kind of cold? Broke and worried
Dear Broke, It is amazing that you pay fifty dollars a week for your parents to babysit three children under four. Maybe you should look around for a better deal, then come back and kiss the ground your parents walk on. That fifty dollars a week probably doesn’t cover what the children eat or the ibuprofen or aspirin your folks take at the end of the day. Auntie Linda
Dear Auntie Linda, I hate my mother’s mean little dog. She won’t come to visit without bringing that darn beast. It snaps and snarls at the children. We’ve never had a dog in the house. It rankles me that she favors it over the children. It drags its bottom on the carpet and I have to clean the carpet before I can let the baby down. This angers and disgusts both me and my husband. It is a real issue. What in the world do I do? Love Mama, Not the Dog
Dear Love Mama, Surely Mama has noticed that her little dog is less than welcome. Perhaps she can confine it to her room. That bottom dragging indicates the dog likely has impacted anal glands, an unpleasant and uncomfortable situation for Fido and the carpet owner, not to mention, dragging even a healthy bottom on the carpet where a baby will be crawling is disgusting. Unless Mama is demented, she ought to be able to understand the dog doesn’t need the run of your house or the freedom to terrorize children. What if the children hurt the dog? She needs to protect it. However, dementia is always a possibility. Auntie Linda


