Poverty, the Only Thing Money Can’t Buy

The stories of crippling student loans are mind-boggling.  Is it not possible to get through without so much debt?

When I was going to college in the late sixties and early seventies, I got student loans through the Department of Education.  It was not possible to borrow even enough to pay tuition, room and board, and books. I if private loans were available , fortunately, I didn’t know it. My government loan paid only tuition, initial payment on room and board, and possibly a few books.  I had to earn enough to pay second installment on room and board.  Propitiously, I worked in the university library and learned early on that textbooks could be checked out from the library and renewed all semester, eliminating book fees. Most textbooks sat on that lonely shelf all semester. Even if books were older editions, the changes were minimal, such as rearranging chapters or updating pictures.  It was an excellent plan, cutting my costs tremendously.

Bud and I got married our last year of college.  We arrived with the incredible sum of five hundred eighty dollars to start our senior year.  That was enough to pay his tuition, first month’s rent, get utilities turned on, and stock our meager pantry.  We earned minimum wage, one dollar and twenty-five cents hourly.  Between us, we earned thirteen hundred dollars that year.  We didn’t get married till August, so we had dorm fees the first half of the year.

Our Budget:

Rent.                 $75

Utilities.              20

Groceries.           50

We lived in a small shabby house not far off campus.  There was no air-conditioning, and two gas space heaters, one in the living room and one in the bathroom.  We only used the one in the living room when we were home, closing off the rest of the house off.  The bathroom heater only went on during baths.  There was no telephone, more savings.  We got through that year without buying clothing  except two pair of shoes.  I bought cheap ones the first time and they quickly tore up, necessitating the purchase of a second, quality pair, a poor economy.

Bud had a 1962 Chevrolet truck that got us back and forth on the few visits we made to our families.  A few times, my dad sent us a check for gasoline so we could visit.  We parked the truck when we got back, not moving it again till we left town.  We walked everywhere, class, work, and the grocery store.  We both carried home two bags of groceries on our monthly shopping trip.

I still remember our grocery list,

One pound Community Coffee.               $.89

1 lb ground chuck.                                         .89

Whole chicken approximately.                  1.00

Five lb flour less than.                                   1.00

Pasta 3 lb. less than                                        1.00

5 lbs beans less than.                                      2.00

3 cans tomato sauce.                                       1.00

Two lb meal less than                                       .50

1 lb margarine.                                                    .2 5

Two lb rice less than.                                         1.00

1 dozen eggs.                                                           .29

5 lb grits less than.                                                1.00

1 lb can Crisco less than.                                       .89

Three envelopes dried spaghetti sauce mix.   .99

Toilet tissue less than.                                            1.00

Laundry powder less than.                                   1.00

Toiletries and sundry                                   Negligible

Of course, we occasionally bought salt and pepper.  The whole chicken made three meals.  The first time, I fried four pieces, the second meal was chicken and dumplings, the third chicken noodle soup.  The ground chuck was for a casserole and to be cooked in spaghetti sauce, two meals.We had lots of beans and rice.  Many afternoons we fished.  If we had a good catch, we had fish and fries.  If not, we are grits.  We also had a lot of gravy and biscuits.  Bud’s mother gave us her old wringer washer, so we cranked that devil up when we totally ran out our clothes, so there was no expense for the Laundromat.  I will always remember this as one of the best times of my life   I never felt poor.  All our friends were as poor as we were, so we had community.  Bud always said we had one thing money can’t buy: poverty. The good thing about struggling early on is that from that time on, you know how to budget and set expectations.  We were fortunate.

Lady of Luxury

Thursday was payday, so buying groceries was paramount in Mother’s week. In fact, Wednesday evening she would have probably made supper(not dinner)from the few remaining items in the pantry, possibly a box of macaroni, ketchup, a dented can of mackerel, and dried lima beans. Yum! It takes a talented chef to whip up an appetizing meal from that poor fare. Alas, Mother was no chef, but we were always ravenous, so we ate it. We knew better than to complain. Wednesday breakfast would have likely have been oatmeal, no butter, or God forbid , flap jacks. Mother’s flap jacks were her last resort breakfast. When she got that low, she was likely out of the eggs or milk needed to turn them into decent food. I believe her recipe was:

mix self-rising flour with equal amount of water. Stir until consistency of mashed potatoes. Drop gobs into near-flaming grease. Turn just before gobs ignite. Can be served with pear or fig preserves if you don’t have butter and syrup. Failing that, they can be served with thick brown gravy. Be sure to cook in blazing skillet so they swell up before burning black on both sides Dough should ooze out when pierced with a fork. There should be ample leftovers.

They were as horrible as they sound, nothing but fried dough balls.

These need to be about four times as thick and several shades darker

My parents usually owned one car, meaning Mother had to drive Daddy to work at 630 and rush back home to get the babies before the big kids caught the bus. All this took place after being up at five-thirty to milk the cow and cook the delicious breakfast described earlier.

Then, she was on her way to pick up Daddy’s check and do the banking. Next, she drove by two small grocery stores to check the specials posted in the windows. She usually managed the bargains with groceries and babies in one buggy. Then, off to do the real shopping at the A&P. Pushing her buggy along, she heaped it up with canned goods, cleaning supplies, big bags of potatoes, dried beans, sugar, flour, butter, meal, produce, and meat. The babies rode along in the second with paper goods, cornflakes, and lightweight items stacked carefully around them.

The car fairly sagged with its cargo. With no availability or funds to purchase lunch, Mother changed and fed the babies a makeshift lunch in the car. Hopefully, they’d be napping amidst the shopping when she got back to pick Daddy up from work.

Back at home, Phyllis and I would be pressed into service to doodle in innumerable parcels, put away groceries, tend babies, and help get dinner started, while Mother got ready for evening milking. In time, Phyllis and I had to milk, a repulsive chore. According to Daddy, men were forbidden in the Bible to milk. “Thou cannot take what thee cannot give” He couldn’t cite the chapter and verse, but knew it was in there. He quoted lots of convenient %#|^ from the Bible.

The financial reckoning came after supper. As Phyllis and I cleared the table and started the dishes, Daddy pushed back from the table, lit a cigarette and asked. “How much did you spend on groceries?”

Mother dreaded this. “I spent about eighteen dollars at the A&P and eight dollars on chicken and hamburger at Barrett’s Market. Oh, I got a box of day bread at the bread store for a dollar.”

“I told you, can’t keep on spending like that. You’ve got to cut back! You need to go get your groceries and bargain with the manager on price!” Daddy had never been grocery shopping in his life, but had to know better than that.

“Bill, I’m not doing any such thing! That’s not how grocery stores work!” and they were off!