Dear Auntie Linda,  My grandmother died recently.  She left her entire estate, the farm my father grew up on, to my brother.My sister and I were also very close to her. The monetary value wasn’t great.  It was just painful not to be acknowledged at all.  Why do you think she would have done this? Hurt Feelings

Dear Hurt, She may be from that old school of that feels everything goes to the eldest male heir to keep the estate intact or she may be submitting to someone else’s wishes.  I know it would be painful.  I am sorry your feelings are hurt, but her estate is hers to handle as ske wishes.  Auntie Linda

Dear Auntie Linda, My husband and I have a new baby.  My lovely mother-in-law has offered to babysit in her home next door, but we don’t feel safe accepting her offer since she is such a casual housekeeper.  She often has things scattered on the floor and spoiled spoiled food in the fridge,, for example.  Would it be insulting to ask us to keep the baby at our home?  Worried Mama

Dear Worried, Mother-in-law is likely to bring her casual habits with her.  Professional day care might be a good idea.  Auntie Linda