
Cousin Bobo was footloose and fancy-free, unperturbed by the economic responsibilities of four children in three years. He doted on his child-bride, Inez, living quite happily with her and their family in an old unpainted, farm house on her mama’s place. Despite his aversion to a regular work schedule, he and Inez managed fine. There was no power to the house, so no bills, the wood stove and fireplace sufficing for heat and cooking. The house was abandoned when they moved in, so he tacked wire over the open windows to keep varmints out, shuttering the windows for bad weather. Mama was real proud he did the right thing and married Inez, so she wasn’t about to stir up trouble, especially after the young’uns started coming. Bobo plowed and planted Mama’s garden, later helping get the peas picked and corn cut. Except for the few days he spent plowing, and cutting firewood, he fished and hunted every day. He happily peddled watermelons and turnip greens out of his old ’49 Ford Truck. They never ran short of game or fish. Sometimes he’d help a neighbor butcher a beef or hog, bringing in extra meat. He wasn’t averse to helping family with a little painting or carpentry work from time to time, as long as it was understood that his labor included a few days’s hospitality for his family. He kept Mama’s freezer full. That along with Mama’s chickens and eggs, the cow’s milk and butter kept them going just fine. Getting clothes for the kids wasn’t a challenge. Inez was the youngest of six spectacularly fertile sisters. Their cousin’s hand-me-downs were plentiful. All those little blonde tykes lined up in overalls year round was awe-inspiring. Most of the time, they wore shirts under their overalls in winter. Plenty of old tennis shoes lay casually around, should any of the kids decide they needed footwear. Some even had mates. Size wasn’t an issue. Should a shoe be too big, it worked fine to slide-style and let it flop. The kids weren’t partial to shoes anyway, unless they were picking around in a trash dump with old cans or broken glass. Shoestrings were scarce, but I never noticed anybody really looking for any.
I loved it when Bobo, Inez, and the kids showed up. Mother wasn’t always so enthusiastic, figuring they had run out of groceries and needed a place to roost for a few days. They did seem more likely to show up in bad weather, when a warm house was a comfort. Sometimes they’d stay a few days with this relative, a few with that one, moving one before the tension got too thick.
Mother complained about relatives giving them gas money to help them down the road to their next hosts. I know I saw her slip Inez a little of her grocery money once, after Daddy went to work. They moved on. We ate gravy and biscuits till Daddy got paid the next Thursday.
to be continued
I totally agree with you. It’s all ridiculous. I am much better off out of the cult and I’m so much happier and way more spiritual now that I believe in a loving and caring God. I have a much deeper faith now that I’m out and I have an incredible relationship with Him and I’m loving my new life on the outside and away from the confines of this horrible religion/cult.
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Some people make God so mean!
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Sad, isn’t it. I hope through my writing to be able to show people that God is love, not hate. I hope I can help people not fear Him, but find peace in a loving relationship with Him.
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I can’t imagine living such a life being footloose and fancy free isn’t for everyone it would not be for me
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No, I feel responsible for home, kids, work, and family.
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I could visualize the young ones in their overalls all lined up. Beautifully written
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Thank you. I thought it was a happy go lucky last fe but I know the family did without.
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Sounds like they had lots of love though and to me, that’s so much better then the material things. You’ve captured their love story and I’m excited to read more.
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I nez adored Bobo and the kids. He just acted like another big kid!
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they sound like wonderful people
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As a kid, I thought they were great!
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Aww, and look at the memories you get to share. Love it.
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Sure do! I hope those kids did ok.
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I’m sure they did.
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I want to know about your book.
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Oops, I forgot to share a little bit about it in the last couple of blogs. Thank you for the reminder. Basically in a nut shell, it’s about my life growing up in a cult, escaping and starting a new life.
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I’m so glad you got out. My DIL was raised Mormon. She’s glad to be free.
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Thank you my friend, I am beyond grateful to be free of the cult.
I have a good friend that is Mormon and I see a lot of similarities between the cult I was in and them. One difference I do appreciate is, the Mormon religion is way more forgiving then the JW’s
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That’s a mercy. Shunning is so cruel!
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So very true. So many who’ve left the cult because of being shunned have committed suicide because of the extreme cutting off from their family and friends
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That’s tragic, but didn’t change policies?
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Nope, never will. They changed the way they present things to the public, but the shunning policy is still, very much alive and causing so much mental illness amongst those who are shunned
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I’m sure many think they are destined for Hell. I was raised Baptist and was terrified of going to Hell. We had Hellfire and brimstone sermons intended to scare you straight. Women were responsible for tempting good men!
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That is some scary stuff. I didn’t realize Baptist were like that in their teaching. The JW’s don’t believe in hell fire, but they do believe in Armageddon, basically if you aren’t in Jehovah’s favor, you are destined to be destroyed by Him during his great day of wrath.
One thing the Baptist and JW’s seem to have in common is, women tempt good men. Crazy stuff.
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It’s ridiculous! We had Armageddon and the rapture, too! I was terrified. You were reminded constantly that lots of people thought they were “saved” but weren’t. On the other hand, “once saved, always saved!” Meaning if you somehow got that golden ticket, it didn’t matter what you did afterward, you were set. However, a true Christian wouldn’t do “those things.”
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May it will fall apart!
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I hope so too
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What a life! I love the way you wrote it.
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Bobo didn’t worry about much. I know it was a hard life for Inez and the kids. I know those kids didn’t get everything they needed. I liked him because he was silly, but I was a kid.
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Thanks. I was revisiting my time with that family.
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