How would you describe yourself to someone who can’t see you?
I am matter of fact, preferring a simple life and simple clothes. I’ve never colored my hair. That’s too much trouble to keep up. I smell of soap and freshly laundered cotton clothes. I look like a grandma, which I am.
I am noisy, laughing often. I sing nonsense songs to myself and the dogs. Hubby says the neighbors probably think I drink. I never meet a stranger.
If I knew you were coming to visit, I’d bake you a cake
Aunt Julie looked like a wild woman, but I adored her. She cackled like a hen when she laughed with her crinkly black hair standing up like a nest of stinging worms. I saw her comb it once or twice, but it didn’t make a bit of difference. Fortunately, she was easy going and didn’t seem bothered by it. She was a skinny, little woman with a big stomach and pipe-stem legs. The legs of her pants bloused out and never touched her. Had I not known her since I was born, I’d have thought she was a witch. She had a filthy mouth, peppering her language with forbidden words. I learned early on Mother would warm my britches should I repeat anything coming out of Aunt Julie’s mouth.
One of Aunt Julie’s phrases always hooked me. She often prefaced statements with, “as the old saying goes.” I loved old sayings, so I was all ears waiting for what came next. Sadly more often than not, she finished with something perfectly mundane like, “I have to make a pan of biscuits.” I never failed to be disappointed, feeling she had not followed through on her promise. “Fortunately, from time to time, she finished up with a thrilling phrase like, “If I don’t get to the bathroom soon I’m gonna s___ my drawers.” Her use of forbidden language always brightened days moderated by Mother’s prudish language. We weren’t even allowed to say pee pee or doo doo. It’s rough being a gee gee-er in a world of kids who doo doo or donkey. I don’t think Mother cared how she marked us. More on Aunt Julie later.
There was one rule my father fanatically upheld that I threw out the window as soon I left home. “No bare feet before May 1.” It made no sense to me. Should it be 80 degrees on April 30, we were still chastised for sneaking out in bare feet. Once Daddy made a rule, it was written in stone. Even after I was married, he told me I was wrong to go bare foot before May 1, to which I simply replied, “I’m grown now.”
His response, “Well, you try to raise your children right, then when they get grown they do what they want to.”…….long sigh.
Mettie was abandoned by her mother, Cynthia, as an infant, leaving her with her own mother. Though divorce was almost unheard of at that time, Cynthia was twice-divorced. Her father went on to remarry and took no responsibility for her. He only visited her once, when she was the widowed mother of seven. Late one night, Mawmaw told this tale of her early years, the only time I ever heard this.
“I jist turned nine years old, ‘bout the age you are now. Me and Ma had picked some beans in the cool a’the mornin’ an’ I was a’helpin’ ‘er git ‘em ready fer canning. Ma set down in her rocker to rest jist a minute an’ I was a’playin’ with my kitten. I was glad she was a’sleepin’ a while since I didn’ want’a mess with them beans no how. After a spell, I saw Ma’s head was kinda hung to one side an’ spit was a’runnin’ out’a her mouth kinda foamy. She wouldn’ wake up. I got up to run over to git Miz Jone’s an’ seen there was a fire between our place an’ hearn. There warn’t nothin’ to do but run through it the best I could. Them flames was a’lickin’ at my feet an’ I was jist a’cryin’. I got Miz Jones, but it ain’t made no difference. When they got over to see ‘bout Ma, she was dead. They sent for Uncle Jeb to git’er buried.
I had to go to Uncle Jeb’s, then. He was awful good to me, but Aunt Lottie was jist hard down. She whooped on me ever chancet she got, an’ they was plenty. She made shore I ain’t done no sittin’ aroun’. I married soon’s I could, jist to git outta her way.
I never really had no home after Ma died. I knowed Aunt Lottie didn’t want me around ‘lessen they was work to be done. She’d put me out to help a woman that was having a baby, help with the canning, or help with the sick. I never seen no pay, just worked for my keep. Sometimes my mama would get settled and send for me, but I had to stay out of the way of her man, so back I’d go to Uncle Jep and Aunt Lottie, till she could put me off on somebody else. It was hard times for sure.”
I went to visit my son, John, in Baton Rouge this weekend.
This is John trying to sneak out the doggy door and surprise us at coffee. It didn’t go that well for him. His dogs got in the act.
Later, we made it to sale where I snagged these beautiful stacking tables, and these masks for my son’s office.
My daughter-in-law, Carissa got several very nice pieces of crystal at an excellent price. She was delighted to add them to her collection. A couple are pictured below.
Best of all, the kids got an almost new outdoor kitchen with grill, side burners, and rotisserie for only $300. It retailed for $3500. They were ecstatic!
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So far it is. I woke at six, got straight out of bed, talked to the dogs a bit, and sat in my recliner. My small dog jumped in my lap and cuddled a while. When he lay down, I started on the daily prompt. I hear the birds chirping about their day to come. They seem to have a lot planned. My big dog snoring. Bud is bumping around in the back, so he’ll be up here soon, making coffee and stirring the dogs up. So far, it’s a typical day.
Who would have ever thought chicken wings would need their own day? When I was a kid, chicken wings would have only come before back and neck on the request list. Mother broke the leg-shaped portion off and gave it to babies long before they learned about drumsticks. Of course, she wrestled off the gristly end so they wouldn’t choke. It served as a kind of greasy pacifier to be pried out of their grubby list fist after they went to sleep. Who’d have thought chicken would be a sought after specialty treat?